10 keys to Developing Your Childs Genius
February 28, 2006
Would you like your child to be the best that he can be - to achieve his maximum potential? Imagine how successful your child can be with a brilliant mind, lightening fast learning skills, an accurate, lasting memory, creativity and problem solving skills of a genius. Here are 10 keys to developing your child’s genius.
1. When Should I Start?
Start immediately. Do you have a newborn? Excellent time to start. Do you have a teenager? It is not too late! There are many things you can teach your teenager, that will increase his chances of success in life, as well as improve your relationship with him. Many of these things are never taught in school!
2. Make it Fun
Learning is fun! If you observe little children at play, you will notice that by playing, they are actually performing research of the toy they are playing with. When they feel that they have learned all that they can learn from the toy, they toss it aside and look for a new one. If you make learning fun , your child will develop the love of learning.
3. You Are Your Child’s Natural Teacher
As a parent, you are your child’s natural teacher. No matter how many teachers your child has in school or outside of school, you are his first and most important teacher. Your child learns from you the most important things in life. Make sure to take advantage of this fact to teach your child important lessons.
4. Don’t Keep Your Child Behind
We all underestimate the ability of children to learn. A newborn cannot speak yet, so we don’t know how much and how fast he can learn. Young children are dependant on us to provide the learning materials to them. It is important to realize, that a child learns a language in his first year of life! This is a huge achievement, as everyone who has tried to learn a second language knows.
At the time a child starts speaking, single words at first and then whole sentences, he already understands a vast majority of things that are said to him. His mastery of the language is already much better than he can demonstrate by talking.
At the core of this incredible ability to learn a language, is the skill of pattern recognition. This skill is also important in reading, music and many other areas.It is wise to take advantage of this incredible skill to teach the young child as much as we can.
5. Let Your Child Lead the Way
Children are interested in different subjects at different periods of time. Expose your child to many subjects, and let your child show you what he enjoys most, what he is interested in most. Then you can explore and research that particular subject. It is much easier to teach your child a subject that he is interested in, that one that he is not.
When you are “working” with your child on the subject of his choice, you can relate many other subjects to it. For examply, if your child is interested in trains, you can study about the history of trains, about the physics of trains and how they function, geography - study a map and look at train tracks in different geographical areas, Mathematics - related to trains, and much more.
6. Children Hate to be Tested
When you explore and research with your child, or teach him a subject, never test him to find out if he learned. Trust that he is learning, and keep going. You don’t have to worry whether your child is learning or not, the only thing you have to worry about is whether you are able to keep his interest. As long as he is interested - he is learning!
7. Children Learn Fast
Children learn so much faster than we think. If you don’t move fast enough, you lose your child’s interest. Teaching too slowly and repetition create bordom, and bordom is the enemy of learning.
Again - let your child lead the way. If your child is ready to move to a new subject or a new concept - follow his lead.
8. Confidence and Self Esteem
Confidence and self esteem are most important to your child’s success. As you know, even the most talented, intelligent person, if he doesn’t believe in himself, will never attempt to take on a challenging assignment or a challenging position. This can be hazardous to his career and success.
Praise your child often. Honest and sincere praise will do wonders for your child’s confidence. Never criticize. Make it a habit at the end of the day, before your child goes to bed, to review his achievements and successes. Notice even the smallest things!
9. Goal Setting
Teach your child to set goals early on. No matter what your child’s age, you can start the day talking about the plan for the day, and the goals you would like to achieve that day. When your child is ready, you can start setting weekly goals, monthly goals and yearly goals. Make a plan to achieve these goals, and make sure your child knows that the plan is flexible and can change.
10. It’s OK to Make Mistakes
Make sure your child knows that it’s OK to make mistakes. Mistakes are learning opportunities, they are feedback about what works and what doesn’t. You will never make mistakes if you never attempt to try and achieve anything. This realization leads to a stronger confidence.
As a parent, you have the ability to contribute to your child’s future, to help your child achieve his maximum potential. But don’t wait! The earlier you start - the better your child’s chance to achieve brilliance and explosive success.
For the last 26 years, Esther Andrews has studied, researched and practiced the ways to develop a child’s intelligence. She served as the principal of the School for Gifted Education for 5 years. As a result of this experience, she developed her own method and philosophy, that proved to be extremely successful with her own 2 highly gifted children.
In her Ezine, Ebooks and seminars, she shares her experience and knowledge with other parents, who are interested in providing the best for their children.
Visit us at http://www.all-gifted-children.com.
Cleanse and Stimulate Your Scalp with the Right Shampoo!
February 28, 2006
Shampoo contributes to good hair care. In our quest for the perfect makeup, the vital importance of good hair care is mostly ignored. Your hair is usually the first thing people notice about you and gives you away in many ways. Is it dull, dry and damaged, or is it shiny, vibrant and healthy? Well-groomed hair contributes to that perfect look and the confidence in your personality. There are so many shampoos, conditioners and other hair care products available today. One needs to find out which one is best for ones hair.
Don’t take shampoos for granted.
Don’t take shampoos for granted. Unfortunately, it is difficult to tell a good shampoo from a bad one, especially when cost, fragrance and foaming are the main purchasing criteria. In fact, good foaming virtually means too much shampoo was used, or rather, wasted. Ideally, the head should have just enough lather to help your fingers massage the shampoo into the scalp and lubricate the hair. This allows sebum and other oils to destroy foam quickly. Today, different shampoos are available for dry hair, permed hair, color treated hair, limp hair, and of course, normal hair. Then there are shampoos which are not typically found in store bought products. For these contain quality ingredients that contribute to the cost of the product.
For example, salon shampoo classically contains higher quality protein based conditioners or moisturizing conditioners, thus enabling the conditioner to penetrate deeper into the hair shaft and lock in moisture.
About The Author
Mike Yeager
Publisher
Easy Renovations for Your Home
February 28, 2006
Renovating should be a fun and exciting process (really!). The key is to plan the project out in advance, hire the right people, allot the appropriate amount of time, and make provisions for delays. Try not to make the completion date coincide with your birthday or anniversary. Begin waaaay before that date, if you’re planning a special party, and even then, have an alternate location in mind.
Don’t impose a time frame on yourself or your contractor that will create stress. At the same time, get a clear understanding of how long the project will probably take, and when it will begin. If it’s a three month job and the work won’t begin until November, your house will not be ready for a New Year’s Party, unless you’re celebrating Chinese New Year? This is a surprisingly common problem ? how much time the home owner thinks a project will take and that actual work time required.
There are no Contractor Fairies (and I refer here to the magical ones! Ha,ha,ha!) who can slip in the middle of the night and have the project done by the morning, although that would be good! (I’m guessing that there’d be some really loud dance music, anyway, which would just keep you awake?!) Have your Contractor include a probable time frame with the quote.
Have a clear idea of what you want before your contractor comes over. You don’t have to sketch out the changes, but you should be able to tell him or her what changes you would like to see. Many good contractors will have done so many renos that they will immediately know what needs to be done, the approximate cost and time-frame. When a contractor tells you that ‘the little bathroom’ will cost about $3,000.00, don’t think that your job will secretly only cost about $20.00, maybe a little less?then be shocked and dismayed when your bill comes in at?$3,000.00. You’d be surprised how many people have notions like that. Try not to fall into this trap, or to think that any changes you make once the job has started won’t affect the price or the amount of time of a project. Always get written quotes for any work you are having done, that way you’ll both be clear about the expectations for the job.
If you’re really stuck trying to figure out how to improve an area in your home, consider hiring a Designer. Keep in mind that they can work within your budget, but if your budget is really tight, it’s probably better to spend the consultation fee on new drapes or a toilet? If decision making is a problem area for you, and you’re able to relinquish control, then a designer might be the clear solution. Shop around the same way you would for a contractor until you find someone you’re really comfortable with, someone who will listen to what you want. Remember, it’s your house, so do what’s right for you. If you say, "Absolutely no red" and the designer says you need all red if you’re going to be ‘cutting edge’, then choose another designer ? one who is more interested in catering to your needs.
Is there a quick fix?
Often, there is a quick fix. If you aren’t dealing with structural changes or a complete makeover, then consider a coat of paint, new flooring, new baseboards, and/or new window treatments. There are lots of things that you can do yourself, now. You might want to up-date your bathroom or kitchen with new flooring. There’s a new glueless laminate ‘wood’ flooring that you can tackle on your own, if you are so inclined. Tiling is an excellent option, too, and you can learn how to do that on our site (click on the Tiling page), or attend a seminar at your local hardware store. A really nice throw rug can change the look of a room and add new life to an old carpet. Installation of new carpet should be professionally done, unless it’s a small area and you are skilled at that.
Sometimes a simple change like up-dating your hardware (the knobs in your kitchen ? no, not your husband’s friends! Ha,ha,ha! ) can make a huge difference in the overall look of a room. You may be able to paint your cabinetry if you don’t want to replace it. If you are replacing the cabinets, Check out your Local Hardware Stores selection. You can check for price, availability, installation fees (don’t try this alone!), and for some ideas in general that you like. They will provide you with a computer printout of what your completed kitchen will look like, if you arrange to meet with a Kitchen Designer and draw one out together.
If you have an old brick fireplace that you don’t care for anymore, or want to give it a fresh look, consider painting it. This is not a crime?painted brick looks great! Generally, creamy shades work well, but you can choose what you like. Brick really soaks up the paint, so use a good primer, first.
You can also put a marble tile (slate works well, too) around the fireplace. Use the correct tile adhesive (ask at the store) and choose a nice grout.
You can actually buy a Fireplace Surround pre-made, or you can build your own Mantel with Crown Moulding and some nice lumber. You may want to bring in some help for this. While you’re looking at the Fireplace Mantels, check out the cool ‘Fireplace Overmantels’ — they’re gorgeous! You can have mirror custom cut to fit in the center and make your house look fabulous, darling!
Changing the lighting can create a whole new look in your home. If it’s not too complicated, you can do this on your own. If it’s too tricky or dangerous, bring in an electrician. Changing the light switches and switch plates can make a huge difference, too. You can go from the past to the present in a flick of the switch! Ha,ha,ha!
Doors have a huge impact on how a house looks. Painting old wooden doors (the ones from the 60’s and 70’s) can add new life to them. Change the hardware while you’re at it, and you’ll have a nice new door! Switching to French Doors (the ones with the glass inserts) can add extra light to a room. You can get the glass with many different looks, if privacy is a concern. If your budget will allow, consider changing all the doors to the new white colonial style ? that looks nice in just about every home. They’re clean and neat, and will brighten up a hallway.
Replacing your front door can give the house a real boost and probably add a bit of safety, too, since many of the new doors are made of steel. Sometimes adding a lovely screen door can create more interest at the front entry. When you change the doors, you will probably want to replace the baseboards, too. If you are trying to make the job as easy as possible, consider using Rosettes for the corners, then all the cuts will be straight ones. Use Dap to fill in any little gaps, or wood filler if you’ve gone with a wooden finish.
Also, Changing out the Garage Doors in an Older Home to Update the Exterior look of your house is a great idea. Garage Doors are a very reasonable price, these days — some things become more reasonable as time goes on — go figure! But changing out the Garage Doors can create an incredible new look for your house. And maybe add some nice neat Trim around the Doors, too!
Did you know that you can paint your appliances? It works, too. You can hire a painting service to do this if you’re worried about the outcome. If you are getting new kitchen cabinetry, you can order matching covers for the appliances. Ask at the cabinet place for details to see if that is feasible in your kitchen. Sometimes your best bet is just to bite the bullet and buy new appliances. My favourite new appliance (who knew you could have a ‘favorite appliance?!) is the Upright Freezer. I’m putting one in the new house, it’s sooo cool! It looks like a refrigerator — some the same height and almost the same size, and some a little shorter. You can arrange to have the door open from the left, if you have the fridge and upright freezer side by side, so access is even easier. Anyway, it saves ‘losing’ all those items at the bottom of a regular freezer that you can’t remember and find a couple of years later? Also, there are some really neat new small appliances that will add more efficiency to your kitchen. There’s a roasting oven that that just plugs in and sits on your countertop ? great for big dinner events when you could really use another oven.
If you have a small space with a closet (front entry, bedroom), consider changing the regular doors to mirrored doors. That really opens up a room and provides more light, quickly.
Window Treatments can make the world of difference in a room. There’s a huge selection of gorgeous curtains, most of them reasonably priced. Shop around ? there are some great deals, out there. On-line shopping is perfect for this. At the very least, it’ll give you an idea of what’s available on the market. Adding a beautiful Valance will have a huge impact on the room. You can make them out of Crown Moulding if you like the wooden look, or you can build them out of plywood, cover with cotton batting, then material to suit your room, and staple them at the back. Be sure to get help hanging them on the wall as they will be quite heavy. Be sure to attach it where there’s a stud, too. (Are you making your own stud jokes?! Ha,ha!) The relatively new wrought iron curtain rods with all the cool attachments are really attractive, too. They are much easier to install and generally less expensive than a valance. You can buy ready-made material valances, too ? they’re usually offered with the set of curtains that you choose. Tie-backs can make a real difference, too, so have a wee look at them, as well.
Furniture plays a key role in the look of your house. There are some gorgeous slip covers available, if you don’t want to replace your extra comfortable stuff! You could try your hand at reupholstering your furniture. It’s not as hard as it looks, but it does take time and skill, but if you’re a willing participant and plan it carefully, it should work out all right. Get a staple gun to make the job a little easier.
Maybe you’re in the market for a new head board? You can make your own out of a nice door, with an even pattern, some nice Crown Moulding, and some legs. You can purchase these at any lumber store. Turn it on its’ side to create the look you’re after.
If you’d like a softer headboard, try covering a sheet of plywood with a fair bit of padding, then cover with material and staple. If it’s big enough, you may be able to just sit it behind the head of the bed, or you can attach it to the frame.
Let go of your old notions about painting wooden furniture ? it can really bring it into the present (especially if it’s that really dark wood so very popular in the 70’s?). If you are painting a hutch, remember to paint the interior to keep it looking light. Adding additional lighting is easy with the new ’stick on lights’ available at regular retail outlets. Smear Vaseline on the windows of the unit before you paint it to make clean up faster and easier.
You can replace the hardware, too, or paint that, as well. If you really want to be adventurous, you could tile the top of your dressers and end tables with a nice marble or ceramic tile. Check my’Tiling Page’ to learn how to do this.
New Bedding can really change the feel of a bedroom. If you don’t already have Bed skirts, try adding these. An easy and inexpensive way to create you own bed skirt is to take a flat sheet that is a size larger than your bed. Place it carefully on the bed to reach the floor around the bed, then make pleats at the corners. You can pin it, or just arrange the top mattress over the sheet to hold it in place. Try adding a Duvet Cover over an old comforter for a different look. You can get matching Pillow Cases, too, that’ll really complete the look.
Speaking of Tiling, if your Kitchen Countertop has seen better days, you might want to consider tiling it. This is actually a surprisingly inexpensive venture, especially if you can do it yourself. Many arborite countertops have a little ‘lip’ at the outer edge, which you will probably have to plane down to create a smooth and square surface in preparation for the tile. You can also remove the old countertop and replace it with ¾ plywood (have it specially cut to fit), then tile on that. There are so many beautiful tiles to choose from, that the possibilities are endless. Look at all the different sizes of tile, too. People often think of the tiny tiles, or the 4" tiles, for a Countertop, but you can go much larger. The tile we chose for our next kitchen (you can watch this process by clicking on the Tiling box) is a 13" X 13" Green Marble Ceramic Tile ? gorgeous. Real marble tile is fantastic, too. There is a special grout to use for countertops, so be sure to tell your retailer what your project is. Also, using a thin grout line will make a real difference.
If your bathroom is in need of an up-date, a coat of paint might do the trick. Many people have successfully painted their tile. Ask your retailer what type of paint and finish you’ll need for this. The bathtub can be painted, too ? there’s a service that specializes in this, so check your local papers. Tub Surrounds are not a bad idea if there’s no water damage on the walls. Tiling is always a good option. If you’re doing it yourself, and you have to tear down the existing walls, remember to use waterproof drywall before you complete the wall finish. Replacing the countertop, sink, toilet, tub or fixtures will really improve the look of the bathroom. Call a professional before you ‘get in too deep’, though, and by that I mean before you end up in a foot of water ? outside of the bathroom!
Shelving can make a tremendous difference in the feel of you home if space is an issue. Check your closets to see if there’s a space at the very top where a shelf could be added. That’s usually wasted space, and you could store your ‘opposite season’ clothes up there. Can you build shelves into your Pantry to make more room for canned goods? Stackable baskets and boxes are useful for storing all the extra little things that cause clutter around the house. There are lots of shelving ‘kits’ on the market, now. They are often less expensive than buying all the materials to build your own shelves, so check these out first.
A really simple way to change the look and feel of your home is to rearrange the furniture. Sounds painfully simple, but it can breathe new life into a room. Also, the addition of some nice big tropical plants, some hanging plants, and/or some potted flowering plants will add life and colour to a room. Hanging some nice prints or other artwork will do wonders for your décor, too.
Major Renovations
Generally, major renovations would encompass Remodeling a portion of your home or the whole thing. The important stuff to remember is not to get in too deep. A very common problem is taking on more than you can chew, usually right after watching your favourite renovation show on television! It always takes waaaay longer to do a renovation than what is accomplished with the magic of TV! Ha,ha,ha! For one, they have all kinds of professional help (free ? yours probably won’t be?), and note how the camera carefully avoids any close-up shots of the finished work. If you race through a job, you’ll have lots and lots of time afterward to look at all the mistakes. Take your time, plan it out carefully, and do one area at a time. Sounds obvious, but it’s surprisingly easy to start ripping out all the stuff you don’t like, then realize later that it takes forever to actually fix any given area. Much better to decide what needs to be done, write out a list, then prioritize. If you have the Walls and the Floors on the same list, do the walls first ? it’ll be less stressful when the paint splatters!
If it’s a huge remodeling job, consider how you will cope with all the mess. Do you have an alternate location where you can live during the renovations? How about a little area of the house that you can keep as a sanctuary? Give this some serious thought before you get started. It can be surprising how difficult life can be during a reno project. If you happen to have a House Trailer, this is probably a good time to ‘camp out’, if only for a little break from the chaos.
Read through the Building Information on www.buildyourownhouse.ca for a really big project, since much of the information is applicable. Don’t forget the Permits!
Ailsa Forshaw is a Writer, Builder, Website Owner & Manager, Teacher, Mother… all in Alberta, Canada. She is Married with Two Lovely Children, and one gorgeous wee dog. Her Website, http://www.buildyourownhouse.ca, is chock full of all sorts of useful & fun information to help anyone become Financially Successful, Slim, Trim, and Happy… what more could you want? Pop in for a wee visit!
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A Reason For Living in a Nutshell
February 28, 2006
In brief, my book A REASON FOR LIVING is the product of a sustained effort to answer in the most enlightening and inspiring way this single question: Why live? I started to ask myself that question about thirty years ago after my diving accident, which left the husky and lusty teenage athlete that I was a near quadriplegic. What had given meaning to my life until then had become largely impossible. As a result, my life seemed absurd.
"Seemed" is the operative word here. Many years of reflection and study have taught me that the lack of meaning is always a lack of wisdom. Everything I have learned and that has turned the bitter and suicidal young man that I was into a mature and serene life lover is what I impart to my reader.
Listed below are some of the major points in my book:
1. There can be no contentment without acceptance of the limits of reality, within which excellence and joy are possible, but not perfection and infinite happiness. Furthermore, there can be no contentment without the courage to pursue excellence and joy persistently, against failures and misfortunes. That is to say, if life is to be compared to a car ride, we had better be in the driver’s seat and move forward at a good pace, but without haste, while steering in the right direction. We are responsible for our lives, even though we do not control everything, far from it.
Above all, our minds are at our command and determine our moods. Independently of circumstances and results, contentment follows from positive thinking and positive action ? though admittedly it is not possible without circumstances and results being at least favorable enough to permit thinking and action.
2. In the pursuit of excellence and joy, the awareness of our adaptability is paramount. Change, and sometimes extensive and traumatic change, is part and parcel of life. Fortunately, we are able to adapt to this change. That is, the favorable habits we develop within relatively stable circumstances ? for example eating, working, or dating habits that are conducive to our happiness ? do not truly define the individuals we are. What does define them so is our innate ability to acquire favorable habits whatever the circumstances (provided the latter are not so bad that they cannot be turned to good account). In a word, we are by nature adaptable, just as the world is by nature changeable.
3. The one fact that differentiates life from infinite bliss is the struggle that is required of the living to achieve satisfaction, which is never complete and permanent. We can either sorrow over that fact or rejoice at it. Why rejoice? because with the struggle comes merit, and merit is a joyful emotion that any valiant soul knows intimately and values immensely.
4. Just as we cannot build a house without first securing a solid foundation, we cannot achieve fulfillment without first ensuring that our body is sound, thanks to a healthy diet and lifestyle.
5. To be free to do what we please is a precious right that we have as members of a liberal society. This right comes with a corresponding duty: to respect that right in others. Indeed, we are free to do what we please if what we please is not to make our fellow creatures suffer. Mutual respect is the sine qua non of collective harmony. It is the chief principle behind human justice.
The right to freedom, within the liberal society, also means that we are free to believe what we please. No institutionalized ideology is imposed on us besides the basic moral principle dictating that we respect one another so that society, however liberal, remains sufficiently ordered to be operational. The reverse of order is chaos, which only knows the law of the jungle: dog eat dog.
Now, the right to believe what we please comes with a corresponding duty: to think by ourselves and for ourselves to define our own ideology according to which we see and do things in a certain way. Again, the only imposition is the basic moral principle dictating that we respect one another.
6. Within the context of my own ideology, which I cannot impose, but only propose, love is the essence of life, its essential purpose. It includes the love of ourselves, which consists in promoting our own life. This love is instinctive and foundational; it is instrumental in the love of others, as we feel solidarity with them.
At a deeper level, love extends to that of everything. It proceeds from the divine principle behind the universe, thanks to which everything is the way it is, capable of being and better still, within certain limits, capable of flourishing. Like this principle, these limits can be ascertained through their obvious manifestations, but never explained. Ultimately, the universe and our relative knowledge of it are founded on a fathomless mystery.
Addendum
For a wider perspective of this book and its author, including pictures, excerpts, autobiographical information, plus details on where to purchase the book, please use the following link:
http://laurentgrenier.com/ARFL.html
Thank you. I wish you every happiness!
Laurent Grenier’s career as a full-time writer and thinker spans over twenty years. He has released various articles in art and philosophical magazines. He has also written some philosophical essays, a collection of memories and thoughts, and a compendium of physiology and nutrition, still unpublished. A REASON FOR LIVING constitutes his best work to date.
Flower Meanings
February 28, 2006
Certain types or colors of flowers mean different things, and you don’t want to send the wrong message if you give them as a gift! Of course, not everyone knows what a particular flower means, but you can never be too sure!
FLOWER NAME and/or COLOR — FLOWER MEANINGS
Carnations
Carnation (General) — Fascination
Carnation, Pink — Emblem of Mother’s Day, I will never forget you
Carnation, Purple — Antipathy and Capriciousness
Carnation, Red — Admiration, my heart aches for you
Carnation, Striped — No, Sorry, I cannot be with you
Carnation, White — Pure Love, Sweet Love, Innocence
Carnation, Yellow — Disdain and Rejection
Lilies
Lily, Calla — Majestic Beauty
Lily, Day — Coquetry
Lily, Orange — Hatred and Disdain, Wealth, Pride
Lily, White — Majesty and Purity, Virginity
Lily of the Valley — Purity and Humility, Sweetness
Roses
Rose, Coral/Orange — Enthusiasm, Desire
Rose, Dark Pink — Thank you
Rose, Light Pink — Admiration
Rose, Musk — Capricious Beauty
Rose, Pale — Friendship
Rose, Peach — Let’s get together, Closing of the deal
Rose, Pink — Love, Grace, Gentility, You’re so Lovely
Rose, Pink & White — Love, Desire, Respect, Courage, Job well done
Rose, Red — Majesty and Purity, Virginity
Rose, Red & Yellow — Congratulations
Rose, White — Charm, Secrecy, Silence, You’re Heavenly
Rose, White on Red — Unity/Flower Emblem of England
Rose, Yellow — Infidelity, Joy, Friendship, Welcome Back, Remember me
Rose, Yellow & Orange — Passionate thoughts
Tulips
Tulip — Symbol of The Perfect Lover
Tulip, Red — Believe me, Declaration of love
Tulip, Variegated — Beautiful eyes
Others
Daffodil — Emblem of Annunciation/Regard, Unrequited love
Daisy — Gentleness, Innocence, Loyal love
Iris — Faith, Wisdom, Valor, Your Friendship means so much
Orchid — Magnificence, Love, Beauty, Refinement
Sunflower — Homage and Devotion
A Heath is a gift researcher for http://www.the-gift-wizard.com
Parenting Problem? 5 Simple Things That Will Help
February 28, 2006
What is a parenting problem?
Parenting is a tough job, we all know that. Parents face many situations that they are not familiar how to deal with. Is the child’s fault? Of course not. We as a society are quick to place blame on the problem teenagers, yet often times if we examine the situation closely it is truly the parents that are the problem.
Communication
Parents and children need to communicate with one another before a problem occurs. Your child should know that they can come and talk to you about anything that is on their mind. Parents usually think that this is the case with their child but often they fail to continually tell the child that. Children often do not understand unless told that there is a constant open line of communication and support available to them.
Trust ? Lack of trust can be a factor with a parenting problem.
If your child does not trust you they will not communicate with you on a regular basis. Trust is developed over time. Trust is hard to build but easy to loose. Remember often your actions as a parent will speak louder than what you actually say.
Self Esteem
Parents that have a low self esteem often subject their children to tactics that lower their self esteem. Usually this is unintentional but that does not make it right. A child’s self esteem or lack of can have major affects on their life.
Family Time
Did you know 90% of parents that have a parenting problem do not actually spend much time around their children? How can you effectively raise a child when you are rarely around them. In today’s busy world we are all constantly on the run but we need to set at least one day per week where we can spend time with our children. The more time you spend with your child the easier it will be for them to talk and relate with you and likewise you with them.
How do you tell if it is not a parenting problem but a problem with your child?
It is always tough to tell if it is a true parenting problem or a problem stemming from your child. The best thing to do in both situations is to seek professional help. They will be able to diagnose the source of the problem and help set up an action plan to solve the problem.
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